I just threw this book away. Not even worth trying to re-sell. Wish there were negative stars for ratings ....

I got this book when we decided to give IVF a try and maybe my mistake was getting this book after 1 1/2 years of infertility treatments. The information in the book was very dated. Reading through the author's experiences was extremely traumatic for me, but after spending a day upset over 'how bad' the book made the IVF process seem, I realized that a large part of the author's bad experiences came from her having doctors who might have been the best medical doctors ever but who had little compassion for their patients. And then reading through her incessant whining about how much she hated needles .... Infertility is a medical condition, but no one was forcing her to take shots nor was her life riding on that medicine (unlike many people who have to take shots of life-saving medicines every day).

Even her bluntness was annoying sometimes. Her "sorry, but that's the way it is" writing style might truly reflect her experiences, but my 2 years of infertility treatment experiences have not been like that. There are many different types of infertility treatments and many different styles of REs/doctors. You do not have to put up with competent but uncompassionate medical care.

I found this book touched on just about everything. Recommended.

After reading all these reviews, I bought the book thinking I was buying THE infertility book must-have. It's OK. Not great, not bad, but not what the hype here led me to believe. I'll keep it in the library, but I'll be more careful about buying based on reviews here.

This book is absolutely indispensable for anybody who has to turn to fertility treatments and feels helpless, or needs to understand the procedures and terminology. Ms. Swire-Falker tells it like it is, preparing you for situations, and empowering you to be able to take control of your particular problem and get results. Her story is a helpful way to bring the chapters of the book together, and her writing style is enjoyable and positive. Her struggle was long and difficult, but her sharing her expertise enables her to help the rest of us; she is truly a special gift for all of us who are suffering. I keep her in my heart as I begin my own journey through treatments.

I really enjoyed reading this author's story and i got a lot of great information from it. I appreciated the author's honesty about how hard she tried to get pregnant and then stay pregnant (I cannot imagine how hard it must be to have something like 7 miscarriages especially after in vitro.) and the last chapter about her holding and rocking her son to sleep made me weep. Because of this book my husband and I are now pursuing IVF at a better clinic and have started to consider using an egg donor if IVF fails. If it weren't for the information in this book I don't know that I would have tried IVF again or considered other options for having a baby. Somehow this book woke me up and took my blinders off. Thanks to this book i feel optimistic and in control for the first time in a very long time, and i know that I too will be a mother one day!