My husband and I have been struggling with infertility for almost 3 years. I've read tons of books on the subject, but none of them addressed COPING with the emotional and marital stress like Conquering Infertility. For the first time I felt like someone out there understood what I was going through. Dr. Domar described all the emotions and feelings that I was struggling with - I cried with relief when I realized I wasn't crazy. When I read sections to my husband, he commented that the author must have been a fly on our wall. Her advice covers everything from coping with fertile friends and family, the effects infertility can have on your faith and religious beliefs, how to keep your marriage from crumbling under the pressure, how to physically handle the stress your body is under, and relaxation techniques to get you through the tough moments. It's all there. It even covers "what next?" What the options are out there beyond ART and IVF and how to know when you're ready to move on. If all the techno-medical books have left you cold, this is the must have resource for you. If you are lacking emotional support, you will find it in this thoughtfully written, compassionate book.

After reading all these reviews, I bought the book thinking I was buying THE infertility book must-have. It's OK. Not great, not bad, but not what the hype here led me to believe. I'll keep it in the library, but I'll be more careful about buying based on reviews here.

yes, i bought this & read it.
wel, it may make you feel less like it's "your fault!" if you're infertile, but it's important to know the facts.
most women menstrate into their 50s, but become infertile between 38-42. your chances of conceiving w/ your own eggs, even with ivf, after 43 is like 0.02%, OR, in layman's terms, not good.
NONE of these fertility books tell you that.
and for every woman, like the author of "Inconceivable," which I also read, who conceive, literally hundreds more won't.
the moviestars over 40, like Geena Davis, who you see in redbook, etc., are getting pregnant through IVF with DONOR eggs. but they don't tell anyone, keeping the pregnant over 40 myth going.... i guess there's a lot o shame w/ infertility, which leads to people like me casting about for answers since "it worked for them," thinking, "if only i could drink as much wheatgrass as HER!!!" & "ooo! what's HER secret, and how much will she charge me for it?" (bye the bye, i found the book "inconceivable" terribly upsetting and sad & not helpful. plus, she was trying for her 2nd baby, and hearing her whine feels like a slap when YOU think she's so lucky to even have 1!)

one "bit" of "magic" i did find... acupuncture. it regulated my cycle, and going twice a week can improve a man's sperm by 60% research shows. plus it's relaxing and AFFORDABLE, which Dr. Domar's programs (I live near her LA branch) aren't.
otherwise, save your money, or join RESOLVE (www.resolve.org)and maybe you can "book swap" with fellow members...
my best advice, go to a reproductive endocrinologist asap, & find out what's really happening. it set our minds at ease, even though all the news wasn't good.
most importantly... strive to keep your relationship happy and loving and sexy.
hang in there; you have my entire sympathy & empathy.
good luck & i wish all of us babies :)

A book which primarily focuses on emotional and psychological states in women who deal with infertility. The issue of psycho-emotional health in fertility is rarely discussed. Women's thoughts and emotions can reflect on their physiology--very important in cases of women who have negative feelings about their infertility.

Dasha Trebichavska, licensed acupuncturist helping women with fertility issues in San Francisco

I have been going thru infertility for over 3 years now, I picked up this book and at first had an attitude with it, how dare she say I do all of these things and I'll get pregnant. Then a day or two later I remembered that I did do a mind/body program at our local hospital and I DID get pregnant with my next IVF cycle. (I did loose the baby at 11 weeks due to other medical problems). Not saying that this is the all in all answer, but I do believe that being in touch with your inner being is a good thing. I run a peer group infertility group and have recommended this to everyone.